Taking a Moment

Last heavy post of the week, I promise. But truth be told, this year has been a bit heavy for me. Not necessarily in a bad way, just in a heavy way. Lots of changes have taken place – states, jobs, downsizing from a house to an apartment, etc.

Adding one more item to this list is my new status as a Stay At Home Wife. Let me elaborate.

 I graduated with an integrated marketing communications degree in 2009 and held a couple of marketing internships before that. After graduation one of those internships turned into a full time job, which took me down the road of sales. Unemployment took me OFF that road, and back into marketing I went. Three years and another state later, I’ve found myself feeling really unfulfilled and lacking passion for the financial industry.

I began to dread going to the office every day. I had trouble sleeping and eating (which, is kind of a big deal for me – I’m truly a natural at both of these things). I couldn’t “leave work at work”.

You see, that’s not okay with me.

I struggled with the decision to leave my good on paper, comfortable job with a decent paycheck. I knew that I didn’t have it as bad as some people, but I also knew that I didn’t LOVE what I was doing with my life. And ultimately, that argument won out.

So I’m taking some time. Time to do some soul searching. Time to really think about the direction of my life. Time to recharge.

(Photo credit to our friend, Stefan Choquette Photography)

And honestly, I’m feeling pretty awesome about it. Obviously, I plan to return to the working world as soon as I have it all “figured out”, but for now I’m enjoying having extra free time to do what I want.

So far this has consisted of: going to barre every morning, walking the dogs, networking, sometimes getting in two work outs a day (holla), organizing our apartment, looking for a new place to move next month when our lease is up, blogging, soul searching, catching up with people that I love – I talk to my sister and best friend almost daily, reading, cooking, job searching and more.

The funny thing is that I know of a handful of people who have chosen to do this too this year. Is it an epidemic of non-settlers? Have we decided that won’t spend 40 hours a week doing something that we don’t love because life’s too short?

Whatever it is, I just wanted to share this little (BIG) part of my life with you all this month. Now whatever we’re doing, let’s have a fabulous November!

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30 By 30

The other night I was reading in bed, as I often do, and I came across a book review-type article in Shape (or was it SELF?). The book is called The FabYOUList, which sounded pretty cheesy to me, but when I read a little farther into the review I had to admit that I loved the concept. Basically, a married mother of three realized on her 36th birthday that she was much closer to 40 than 30 and that she had not accomplished many of the things she wanted to with her life.

So she set out making a list of things that she wanted to accomplish and ended up with exactly 40 items. Some were big (write a book) and others were small (take an adult ballet class).

This got me thinking about all of the things that I have envisioned for my life when I realized: I have 30 months (including this one) before I turn 30. And so my list began.

Some of the items on this list are really meaningful, others are just things that will make my life easier (one at-home-mani a week saves $780 a year, not to mention hours of time). Some can be accomplished in a month or less, some will take years. I made this list the night I first read the magazine article, jotting down whatever came to my mind and since then I’ve revised and refined it to make it perfectly authentic to me.

1. Write a book.
2. Own a home – again, and this time, make it one that we really feel a connection to.
3. Learn how to surf.
4. Be a better listener.
 5. Holidays – Find meaningful ways (to us) to celebrate.
6. Develop a healthy diet & exercise lifestyle. (Yep, still giving this one a go.)
7. Try my hand at styling, starting with friends.
8. Learn photography basics.
9. Then learn photoshop basics.
10. Master my mani.
11. Become a better cook, including overcoming my fear of chicken.
12. Develop a clear sense of home decor style & begin creating a home environment that I’m absolutely in love with. Every detail.
13. Practice yoga regularly.
14. Learn about wine & cheese pairing.
15. Blog – Find my niche, even if that niche is just writing to update my friends & family.
16. Be a better dog owner.
17. Pay more attention to men’s fashion, for Cory’s sake.
18. Think of ways to be a cool aunt.
19. Deepen my knowledge and appreciation for craft beer. (Yes, this is a real goal people.)
 20. Complete a mini-triathalon.
21. Have my writing published in a magazine.
22. Be okay with less.
23. Be on a career path that I love and can see a future in.
24. Find more ways to connect with family.
25. Follow a budget. For reals.
26. Become a better snowboarder.
27. Smile & look strangers in the eye.
28. Create more traditions.
29. Pay down our debt (student loans I’ve got my eye on you).
30. Finish what I start, or don’t start it.

If you feel compelled, I hope you make a list of sorts, no matter what age you are approaching. And if not, I hope you’ll follow my pursuit!

Life’s Not Always Fair

I may have mentioned before, but for the past two years I’ve been reading a daily devotion by Sarah Young called, “Jesus Calling.” A friend that I look up to very much recommended it to me, and since then I’ve found that many of the women in my life are reading this particular devotional each day. It’s that powerful. 
(Haha – I had to.)
I just have to share today’s message with you, because I bet that it’s been oh-so-relevant for us all at one time or another in our lives. 
Young writes, “Do not expect to be treated fairly in this life. People will say and do hurtful things to you, things that you don’t deserve. When someone mistreats you, try to view it as an opportunity to grow in grace. See how quickly you can forgive the one who has wounded you. Don’t be concerned with setting the record straight. Instead of obsessing about other people’s opinions of you, keep your focus on Me. Ultimately, it is My view of you that counts.”
While I’m not currently going through a situation like this, I can remember many times in my past that I have been. Whether you are a believer or not, I believe this message is so true. We can’t control what others say or think of us and, honestly, it is none of our business! What IS our business is to be true to ourselves, and to choose grace. 
Recently I was faced with a choice when exiting a situation. Encouraged by my dad to handle the challenge with grace, I did so, and I feel so great about it. I was able to walk away from a stressful situation with a smile on my face, a clear conscious and a peaceful heart. 
More on this to come…
Have a great Monday and choose grace!