(Celebrating my birthday w/friends.)
(Feeling happy & confident in a body hugging pencil skirt w/my husband at the Boys & Girls Club Gala in March. Good news – you don’t have to have a perfectly flat six-pack to rock a pencil skirt!)
(Pre-5k run w/friends at the beginning of this month.)
(And then went out to celebrate w/tapas & sangria!)
I will also say that it matters SO MUCH, who you surround yourself with. It brings you down when you spend a lot of time with ladies who obsess over every calorie & regularly body hate on themselves. Instead, if you hang out with women who are more realistic & appreciate who they are & what they’ve got going on – it begins to rub off on you & make you so much less body-obsessed.
2. I’m more comfortable with my decisions.
I know that everyone may not understand why I do what I do or say what I say or feel what I feel. I don’t need them to. And it’s truly as simple as thing.
Pretty easy thing, right? Not for many woman, especially those of us who are people pleasers (and I know very few non-people pleasers, honestly – almost all of us have it in us).
It’s taken 25+ years to get to a place where I don’t LET myself worry about what others think of me. I don’t think about “them” and what “they” are thinking when I make my decisions. And “they” can be anyone: co-workers, friends, strangers, acquatainces, family. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in what people think of you, but it is so freeing NOT TO CARE!
I try to make every decision based on what is true to myself. And of course there are times when I make the wrong decision, but then I only have myself to blame & can learn from my mistake. I no longer have to get frustrated because I let someone else lead me down that path – I make my own paths now.
3. I’m more comfortable in my relationships.
I have this need to control things, including relationships. It’s like, when my relationships were going my way, I received the validation that I needed. At 26, I have done enough work on myself that I no longer need or seek validation from relationships, aside from the ones I have with God & myself.
And that has made all of the difference for me. I’m able to accept that people come & go from your life & that you don’t have to label them, because life doesn’t operate in black & white.
(At the Winefest Walkabout w/some long-term friends who have never left my side. I’m lucky to have these ladies in my life!)
At 26 I feel like I’m growing into the person I’m meant to become. And I don’t know about you, but so far life has only gotten better w/age & I’m that it will continue along that road. : )